Find space to grieve and find hope again.
Pregnancy doesn't always glow. Postpartum isn't always blissful. And "trying"stops being fun after a few months. The reproductive years are fraught with difficulty for many of us.
PRENATAL AND POSTPARTUM COUNSELLING
There is a lot of information out there about postpartum depression, but the same hormones that affect us after birth are raging during pregnancy as well. Whether it's your first baby or your fourth, emotions run high and lots can come up during this time of life.
You might notice your desire to clean, organize, and have things just so goes a bit past the usual "nesting" instincts.
You might notice that you are irritable, sad, euphoric, or cycling between these more than you think is helpful.
You might have intense fears or nightmares about the well being of your baby or your loved ones.
Or perhaps now that you are becoming a new parent, you are re-living hard stuff from your own childhood, like a loss of a parent, sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, or a loved one not being there for you when you needed them as a child.
All of this is really normal, and talking to someone can help.
COUNSELLING FOR FERTILITY STRUGGLES
Whether you've been trying for six months or six years, trying to get pregnant can be emotionally devastating. If you or your partner have had a miscarriage, the pain is even more raw, because you have gotten your hopes up and then had them crushed.
It's hard to find space to acknowledge this pain, because generally, it's not something you are sharing with very many people. Unlike most grief, there isn't time off work, no one is giving you extra room to be alone, and no one is signing up for a meal train. And even if you were to bring it up, most people would be weird about it, so it's easiest to just keep it all locked away and put on a happy face. It's lonely. It's ok to need someone to sit with you as you grieve.
SUPPORT FOR PARTNERS
I see you over there. You are trying to hold it all together for your struggling partner. You're doing a good job, but it is so painful and hard. You are heartbroken, both seeing your love go through these struggles and dealing with your own grief. You also need someone to talk to. It's ok to acknowledge it. Whether you come in together for couples counselling, or you need a place of our own, there is room for you here. There is hope for you here.