Here, "Family" simply means
the people that mean everything.
About our name.
Why call ourselves YEG Family Counselling, you ask?
Because we believe that whether or not our family members are in the room with you, relationships are at the heart of all of our struggles. At the best of times, just thinking of a parent, partner, friend, or child, can calm us and increase our resiliency. But when things aren't going so well, we struggle to connect, we feel distant, and it feels like life. and. death. With some help, you can create healing connections between you and your loved ones so that you can continue on supporting each other through the ups and downs.
Attachment theory tells us that when the relationships most vital to us (such as parents, children, and partners) are in turmoil, our bodies and brains react as though our lives are in danger. This is because humans have a built-in need for connection. Starting at birth, we connect to live. That means as adults, we live to connect.
About our practice.
Creating safer attachments through experience.
In therapy, the top priority is that you feel safe and at ease. Research tells us that if you have a good alliance (which is just a fancy word for relationship) with your therapist, then change will almost certainly happen. During therapy we will explore your struggles, how they relate to your current and past experiences, and find ways to define the emotions that go along with them. You will learn to pay attention to your body, because it's the best way to tell what is going on in your nervous system. Neuroscience tells us that rewiring the nervous system is our best tool for healing from trauma and relating to others better.
Whether you are in therapy by yourself or with a loved one, you body, brain, and nervous system will begin to experience a new way of relating. This begins to create emotional and physiological changes that will help you to feel more connected to your partner, more at ease with yourself, and more understanding of your family members.
About our clients.
You are welcome here.
We love our clients. Seriously! It's something that isn't often stated, but therapists really come to care for their clients. Here at YEG FC, we believe that every person and experience is unique, and that every person is full of amazing ways to cope, survive, and thrive. Sometimes it just takes a little work to get those things working for you and not against you. Though we are experts in our field, we are not experts on you. That means that you get a say in how therapy goes and get to influence what is created in the room with your therapist. Sometimes we make mistakes with our language or our assumptions; sometimes we just miss something or don't align with you perfectly. When this happens, we try to acknowledge it and repair the hurt that is caused.
YEG FC was founded on the principles of feminism and anti-oppression. Those are big academic words that mean essentially this: our world is full systems that promote ablism, sexism and heterosexism, neurotypical-centrism, racism, and white privilege. These things are real, they affect all of us, and they especially negatively affect people on the margins, or, the "most different." For a nonbinary person, a person of colour, or a neurodivergent person, simply existing can feel like a battle sometimes, and the world is full of all kinds of negative messages that we have all internalized.
Because of this, we want you to know this beyond doubt: we are supportive of all types of families and relationships. Our view is that your family is made up of the people most important to you, whether biological or chosen. Whether you have a traditional family, a queer family, or a polyamorous family; whether you are male or female or nonbinary; whether you are neurotypical or neurodivergent; whether you are married, dating, or single; whatever your skin colour, whatever your religion, whatever your background, you can find support here.