Emotion in Play: Why Play Therapy Works

How Play Unlocks Healing, Growth, and Understanding in Children

Have you ever asked a child what's bothering them, only to be met with a shrug or a simple, "I don’t know?" It can be so frustrating, right? You want to help, but they just seem to shut down or walk away. As a parent or caregiver, it’s totally normal to feel a bit stuck in those moments. When kids are upset, anxious, or acting out, they often struggle to find the right words to express what they’re feeling. Unlike adults, who can talk through their emotions, children tend to process their feelings differently—they play them out! Think about it: whether they’re building towering structures with blocks, drawing wild and imaginative creatures, or diving into make-believe adventures, play is their way of making sense of the world around them. For kids dealing with emotional, behavioral, or psychological challenges, play isn't just a fun pastime; it’s actually a vital pathway to healing.

What Is Play Therapy?

Play therapy is a structured, theory-based, therapeutic approach that complements children's developmental communication and learning processes. In play therapy, the use of toys, storytelling, art, and games helps kids express feelings, process experiences, and grow their emotional skills without having to rely on talking alone. It isn't just 'playtime'—it's intentional time to tend to their well-being and help them generate resiliency.

This is important because young children don't have the emotional vocabulary or self-awareness that adults do. Ever wonder why your child complains of stomach aches when it’s time to go to school, or get ready for soccer practice? Have you encountered them lashing out at their siblings when they're told they can't have something? How about clinging to you—or experiencing a form of regression like bedwetting—after a major transition in their life? These are just a few examples of various ways kids communicate “I feel anxious/upset/out of control” because they don’t have the words or understanding to say that to you directly.

Ultimately, when the words just aren't there, we need to use the language of play. 

What Happens in a Session?

A typical play therapy session runs for about 50 minutes. During this time, the therapist sets up a safe and inviting space filled with a variety of toys and materials like puppets, miniature figures, art supplies, a sand tray, costumes, and even a dollhouse. You might be wondering, “So they just play for an hour?” It might look like simple play, but there’s so much more happening behind the scenes! The therapist is actively observing, joining in, or guiding the play to foster healing, insight, and growth. They pay close attention to the child’s play themes, emotional states, and the symbolic communication that unfolds during the session.

For example, a child might engage in what we call "instability play." You know, when they make their toys fall over, tip things 'accidentally,' or pretend they’re about to tumble off something? This kind of play might seem silly at first, but it’s actually quite meaningful. It can be a way for them to express feelings about control and safety, as they take charge of their little world in an imaginative way. Then there’s the child who enjoys building fences, a jail, or a big block house. This isn’t just about stacking blocks; it’s their way of expressing a desire for containment. They might be trying to keep something inside or outside of their space, which reflects their need for safety, security, and protection.

It's in these ways that play therapy offers a gentle space for reflection and exploration. Instead of asking a child overwhelming questions and drawing inferences from their answers, the therapist helps the child gain insight into their feelings and find emotional release through play. Over time, this can lead to some notable changes in the child—like improved emotional regulation, better problem-solving skills, and healthier relationships with others.

A White, male child lays on the ground in front of a number of toy trucks.

A child is pictured from the waist down, seated on a training toilet as they reach for blocks.

An Asian girl with bangs is laying on her stomach, smiling, and colouring.

How It Helps

Play therapy is a fantastic way for children to express emotions that they might not fully understand yet. It helps them feel in-control and safe, while also developing crucial skills like empathy and social interaction. Through this process, kids can learn to regulate their emotions and improve their behavior without the need for shame or punishment. This approach is especially helpful for children facing challenges such as anxiety, grief or loss, significant life changes like divorce, behavioral issues, trauma, and difficulties in social situations.

You might be wondering, “Where do we fit in as parents and caregivers?” The good news is that you’re an essential part of this journey! Therapists often meet with you to discuss your child's progress, share strategies you can use at home, explore any family stressors or patterns, and work together to build a stronger support system. Remember, you are a vital part of the healing process!

Play therapy serves as a wonderful bridge between confusion and connection for kids. It’s a therapeutic approach that really meets children where they are, offering them a safe space to express themselves. Here, they can be seen, soothed, and supported while also being encouraged to embrace their imagination, emotions, and even a little messiness. If you’ve noticed your child feeling overwhelmed, withdrawn, or acting in ways that leave you puzzled, play therapy could be just what they need. It’s all about unlocking their potential in a fun and engaging way! If play therapy seems like a good fit for your child, YEG Family Counselling offers this for kids as young 3 years old. You can read more about me and my personal practice in my bio and start our intake process here.