The Friendly Feminist 
Family Psychologist 

Are there people in your life who bring more strain than peace? If you find yourself nodding in agreement, you might just have relationships with people whom recent research has identified as hasslers. According to the study, relationships with hasslers tend to feel hostile, strained, or burdensome. In a relationship like this, you may find yourself wondering if you should keep the status quo, or go "low contact” or “no contact.”

If you’re reading this blog post, maybe you’ve already had a poor experience with a therapist’s approach to conversations around consensual non-monogamy. Or maybe you’re wanting to avoid having that experience in the first place. Let’s take a look at how you can narrow your search, whether for an individual or relationship therapist.

So, you and your partner have decided to see a couples therapist. Kudos to you both for taking that step! But before you book that first session, it’s a good idea to ask some questions to make sure the therapist is a good fit for you. Think of it as an interview—after all, this person is going to help you navigate some pretty difficult and personal stuff. Let's dive into some key questions to ask your potential couples therapist.